Observations from an Alcoholic’s Sister ~ Emotions

Apr 16, 2014

There are so many different emotions family members of alcoholics feel. One emotion I definitely felt was anger. I was angry because of what I saw Richard’s alcoholism doing to him and to our family, especially mom. I felt as though Richard was being selfish and unappreciative of all that mom and dad were doing in hopes of him getting sober and it made me furious. I understand alcoholism is a brain disease but like any disease most do what they can to control or get rid of their disease, most don’t let the disease control them or end their life without some sort of fight. Alcoholism is a beast to control and I saw firsthand how strong the cravings were but I still felt Richard could have tried a little harder to gain...

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Observations from an Alcoholic’s Sister ~ Their Friends

Apr 9, 2014

Their Friends ~ talk about a really hard issue for alcoholics. I feel alcoholics need to sever the majority if not all of their friendships in order to remain sober. This is because most alcoholics have friends who are social drinkers, are alcoholics themselves and they may even have some who are drug abusers; I know all of this was true for Richard. In order for a recovering alcoholic to find the strength to remain sober, they cannot keep the same group of friends. If the friends an alcoholic continues to hang around drinks or uses drugs in their presence I feel those new to sobriety are on a fast track to relapse. If you really think about it, how is a recovering alcoholic just coming out of rehab going to stay sober while...

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Observations from an Alcoholic’s Sister ~ The Signs

Apr 4, 2014

Me and my family quickly picked up on tell tale signs that Richard had been drinking. If he walked into the room chatting away we knew right then he had been drinking. Chattiness was not the norm for Richard, me yes, him no. Richard was generally a quiet person and really only spoke when he had something to say. Soon to follow his chattiness, came red bloodshot eyes and not long after that, stumbling. Once the stumbling started it went downhill really fast. He stumbled into furniture, knocked things off of tables, ended up breaking things and had us all begging him to please go upstairs and sleep it off. Alcoholics need to understand there are obvious indicators they are drinking. Richard would suck on peppermints thinking he was masking the smell of the...

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10 Years

Mar 28, 2014

Today marks the 10 year anniversary of my brother’s death. Ten years is a long time yet it still feels like yesterday, I was enjoying a fabulous morning sunrise training my golden retriever, Sonny in the field. I went to my car to get us some water and noticed I had a bazillion missed calls on my phone. I called home asking what was up and I will never forget Alan’s words,” Its Richard.” He didn’t have to say another word, I knew he was gone. I could hear it in his voice and I felt it deep in my soul, my little brother was gone. At that moment, my life and the lives of my family changed forever. Mom and Dad lost a son, my sister and I lost a brother, my daughter’s,...

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