10 Years

Mar 28, 2014

Today marks the 10 year anniver­sary of my brother’s death. Ten years is a long time yet it still feels like yes­ter­day, I was enjoy­ing a fab­u­lous morn­ing sun­rise train­ing my gold­en retriev­er, Son­ny in the field. I went to my car to get us some water and noticed I had a bazil­lion missed calls on my phone. I called home ask­ing what was up and I will nev­er for­get Alan’s words,” Its Richard.” He didn’t have to say anoth­er word, I knew he was gone. I could hear it in his voice and I felt it deep in my soul, my lit­tle broth­er was gone.


At that moment, my life and the lives of my fam­i­ly changed for­ev­er. Mom and Dad lost a son, my sis­ter and I lost a broth­er, my daughter’s, nieces and nephew lost an uncle and the world lost a won­der­ful per­son. I would nev­er again hear Richard call me “Lis”, hear his laugh or see his amaz­ing smile and I knew I would for­ev­er miss him.


Alco­holism changes every­thing; life nev­er goes back to the days pri­or to alco­holism. My fam­i­ly nev­er gets to erase the mem­o­ries of watch­ing their son, broth­er, uncle go from a hard work­ing respon­si­ble adult who loved the great out­doors, fish­ing, pho­tog­ra­phy and his fam­i­ly to some­one who end­ed up los­ing every­thing and even­tu­al­ly his life due to the strong hold of alco­hol.


Alco­holism does not just affect the alco­holic, so much remains in the minds of an alcoholic’s fam­i­ly, all the dai­ly strug­gles, the beg­ging to please get help, hear­ing a loved one’s voice fill with fear and wor­ry, the long nev­er end­ing roller­coast­er of emo­tions does not leave, it’s for­ev­er embed­ded in the minds of an alco­holic’s fam­i­ly.

Richard, Gigi & Me

When I look at fam­i­ly pho­tos of my child­hood I see two sib­lings with a bright future. I don’t see a future alco­holic and his sis­ter or a moth­er and father filled with wor­ry and sleep­less nights; I see a hap­py fam­i­ly with a bright future and blue skies ahead. Alco­holism changes every­thing, espe­cial­ly bright futures.

Dad, Mom, Richard & Me

Family Christmas

Alco­holism changed our fam­i­ly for­ev­er, the morn­ing of March 28, 2004.

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