Acceptance my word for 2010

Dec 18, 2009

I have been think­ing a lot lately about what word I plan to really embrace for myself this year. After a lot of thought and read­ing these two blog posts Katie’s and Karen’s I can really relate to some of what they are say­ing. I decided my word needs to be accep­tance. I have a very hard time being happy with any­thing I cre­ate or do. I always feel I can or need to be bet­ter. This issue involves my art, fam­ily life etc. It car­ries over into every­thing. I have always had a hard time liv­ing just in the moment. I have a very type A per­son­al­ity and suf­fer from panic attacks that at times can be par­a­lyz­ing. I worry about every­thing… am I a good mom, wife, artist, daugh­ter, aunt, friend etc. What can I do to be bet­ter. I real­ize I need to accept that there are going to be days when I just flat out screw up. Not inten­tion­ally by any means but I just screw up and it is okay. Life is not per­fect, I am not per­fect and I must accept it, refo­cus and move on. I’m not sure if this is mainly a female issue because as I see it men are much bet­ter at just accept­ing things and are able to move on faster.

This com­ing year I am going to accept myself for who and what I am. I am going to accept the fact that yes I will screw up. I am going to accept the fact that not every sin­gle piece of glit­ter or rib­bon has to be in this very exact spot. That it is okay if it is just a tad bit too much to the right. I am going to accept that the house is not going to be 100% clean 24 hours a day and that there are going to be days that I have panic attacks that par­a­lyze me. All of this just means that I am liv­ing life and at times life is just not 100% of any­thing but breath­ing. I am going to remem­ber to breathe, some days will require deeper breaths than oth­ers but I am going to breathe. I am going to live in the moment and accept the day that I have been given. I am going to be happy that I have the oppor­tu­nity to breathe another day as not every­one is given this oppor­tu­nity. I am going to accept the gift of watch­ing the birds out­side my kitchen win­dow as they give me great joy. I am going to accept the gift of vac­u­um­ing up enough dog hair from my golden retriev­ers to knit 1,000 pairs of socks as they do not live nearly as long as I wish they did and I love these dogs. I am going to accept me for me… yes, I’m going to accept the fact that I have gray hairs com­ing in faster than I can count, that I have some pounds to drop and will when I am ready as I know they will hang out with me until I do, I am going to accept that yes 44 yr. olds do have wrin­kles and embrace them as at least I am here to see them. I am going to accept that not every­one sees things as I do and does things the way I do. Yes this is a big­gie for me back to that type A per­son­al­ity. I am going to accept that not every­one is going to like what I cre­ate and that is okay. I am going to accept that not every­one is nice and that you will get nasty grams from peo­ple that feel they invented every sin­gle thing in the art com­mu­nity and that is okay as that is their prob­lem not mine as I know I have integrity. I am going to accept that I have not had one sec­ond to cre­ate a project to post this week as I have taken care of three sick dogs, one sick kid, Christ­mas shopped, cleaned, washed etc and it is okay and my blog read­ers will cer­tainly under­stand. And I am going to accept that I can­not find a photo to add to this blog post and that the dryer buzzing non-stop at this very moment is mak­ing me crazy. I am liv­ing life.

So with all that said, what word do you plan on liv­ing by for 2010?
Wish­ing you all a won­der­ful day!


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  • http://www.katiebeecreative.com Katie Wat­son

    Lisa Pace, Lisa Pace, Lisa Pace.….….….. You my Missy are going to do just fine!
    First of all, smile about the Nasty­grams and real­ize that you are not the only one that gets those :) We share that lit­tle story, right? But also you would NEVER need to copy any­body, your brain is brim­ming with cre­ative ideas.
    Sec­ond of all, let­ting go of per­fect is such a relief…but it is so hard to do. We all screw up, I do daily.….….but I try to laugh about it, most of the time.
    You are a great Mom, wife, friend, artist etc.…I have never thought any dif­fer­ent. Inter­est­ing to see behind the scenes, into what “we” as women really think about our­selves, isn’t it?
    Third of all, I HATE the dryer buzzing sound.….…Ours is SO loud and goes on and on forever.….…drives me nuts!

    You are over the top cre­ative, artis­tic and I am con­stantly inspired by your work!!

    ~Katie

  • http://www.zunkychic.com Erica@ZunkyChic.com

    Thanks for let­ting us in on your per­sonal achieve­ments and goals for the com­ing year. Remem­ber, life is bet­ter LIVED than MISSED.

    You inspire me and so many others.

  • http://theinspirationinstitute.com bren yule

    Dear Sweet Lisa, you are not alone. We all have our “issues”. We are our own best critic! YOU, my friend are an amaz­ing, tal­ented, clever, fun-loving inspi­ra­tion to many! I am so proud of you and we haven’t ever even meet in per­son yet! Accep­tance is a good word. Embrace it. Your rib­bons are straight enough for me Missy!
    hugs and christ­mas kisses, bren
    PS If you ever knit a pair of retriever socks, add me to your list of recipients!

  • nancy t

    Dear Lisa,
    I am a recent “new­bie” to your blog and beau­ti­ful art. I should tell you that when iIfirst saw your lovely mit­ten and snowflake project.….I could think of noth­ing else for days! I HAD to make them. I had dreams about them. Yes I had a muff as a child…still have it in my over­flow­ing closet! The mit­ten gar­land is hang­ing in our fam­ily room.…thank you for that inspi­ra­tion. Your sweet treat and spe­cial glitter.….just per­fect! I think I too will work on accept­nce. Accep­tance of things I can­not change. My son and daughter-in-law are going through a divorce…and I love them both so much and want to fix their sit­u­a­tion so badly.…I need to find the strength to just accept. When I bury myself in my craft room.…..somehow I for­get wor­ries for a lit­tle while. So I just want to thank you for all of your won­der­ful cre­ative ideas.…when you post and send them out to us.…..maybe you don’t real­ize how sweetly they just might land where needed. I admire you and have your new book on wait­list from Ami­zon! You take care.… I have a feel­ing you are a very won­der­ful per­son Lisa!

  • Aunt Brenda

    Lisa… here I thought I set the exam­ple long ago of how to let go of per­fec­tion and accept life as it comes. Now that you’re “out of the closet” with your long list of wor­ries, I just have one thing to say.… shred that list and live in the moment as much as pos­si­ble. Call me as needed!!!! Much love to you.

  • Trish

    Lisa,
    This post really struck a chord with me. I visit your blog daily, but never leave a com­ment. Why, because I think peo­ple will read my com­ment and find some­thing wrong with it. It would always be a nice com­ment, because I am a nice per­son. But some peo­ple would find some­thing about it to pick it apart. I am my own worst enemy. Of course, I am sure I have some real ones as well! How could you not like any­thing you do? I am inspired each time I visit your blog. You have a book com­ing out! I am impressed beyond mea­sure at that feat! I could never cre­ate any­thing that would impress any­one. Just ask my 9TH grade art teacher. See, I have her to thank for my low self esteem when it comes to cre­ativ­ity! I’ll think about my word for 2010. In the mean time I won’t be a lurker (not all the time any­way!), have a won­der­ful hol­i­day.
    All Good Things,
    Trish

  • Santa

    Santa has accepted you just as you are.
    Please don’t change to much because then you won’t be you.
    Santa and Mrs. Clause love you just the way you are.
    With much love.
    Santa

  • http://www.suziebuttoncreations.blogspot.com Suzie But­ton

    Hi Lisa, I am so glad to read your post as a lot of women are just where you are in their lives, and we need to affirm our value with maybe noth­ing to add but just our basic selves.
    I posted a pic­ture at the bot­tom of my Pink Sat­ur­day post this week­end show­ing me close-up and at first I thought, my god, where did those wrin­kles around my eyes and nose come from?!! Then I real­ized, hey, they’re wrin­kles that go UP, not DOWN, which means I must be the basi­cally smil­ing happy per­son that I strive to be, so come on wrin­kles, you’re show­ing the best side of who I am, not the get­ting older side. Plus as I get older, (i’m now 47), I tell myself that no mat­ter what hap­pens, if my hus­band or I would get laid off our jobs, or some­thing I wanted doesn’t come my way, that I need to out loud remind myself that NO ONE, not even I, has a bet­ter plan for my life than God does, so I need to,as you say, take a deep breath and ask God to reveal to me His fab­u­lous plan for me next. I went through some par­tic­u­larly hard times when my chil­dren were teens from about 14 years old to about 22 with one of them, and I felt deves­tated that their mis­takes meant that I was a bad mom, but now I see that I was wrong. I tried to cre­ate this per­fect child­hood that wasn’t real life, it was like try­ing to live a father knows best show, well, that is not what real life is. Now I look at them and I see adults that are try­ing their best in their lives and I thank God for them being in my life to bless me! I still worry, mainly try­ing to get my youngest at 21 to set some defin­i­tive goals for her future, but I don’t go beserk like I used to when my first three were younger. We all have so many lessons to learn, we’ll never get through them all in this life­time. but your heart is in the right place and that is what makes you a good per­son. Suzie

  • http://www.ibeenthinkinboutinkin.blogspot.com Lori

    Wow, for a minute I thought you were describ­ing me. I have the same issues. Never happy with any­thing I cre­ate, always think it could have been bet­ter. I feel your pain, lol. Very inspir­ing mes­sage, though. Your work is per­fect, in my eyes. I love it. Keep the faith!

  • http://thecountryscrapper.blogspot.com Amber

    Lisa I so agree that we are our own worst crit­ics! Noth­ing I ever cre­ate is good enough! Even though other’s tell me it is, I always think they are just being nice! I think my word for the new year is fun. I am so focused on DT dead­lines and sub­mis­sions, I some­times for­get the rea­son I cre­ate, for fun. At one time only my fam­ily saw my cre­ations and I scrapped and cre­ated because I enjoyed pre­serv­ing THAT spe­cific mem­ory. So hope­fully I’ll have a fun filled new year : )

  • http://scrappergirl.typepad.com Shel­ley Haganman

    And we will be here when you need us!!! All the best to you in 2010 Lisa! Thank you for always being so supportive!

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  • http://whatsnextnancy.blogspot.com Nancy

    Lisa, I’ve been think­ing off & on for a month or more about my 2010 word — what will it be??? I’m a LOT like you, expect­ing so much of myself & oth­ers & all the rest — so, if you don’t mind, I’m prob­a­bly going to use “accep­tance” as well. Actu­ally, I’m afraid if I don’t focus on accep­tance, I’m going to give myself a heart attack or some­thing … life’s to be enjoyed, not tol­er­ated, right? We CAN do this — we CAN let our­selves enjoy!

  • http://www.terriconraddesigns.typepad.com Terri Con­rad

    Hi Lisa,

    accep­tance is pow­er­ful and will give wings to your already pow­er­ful cre­ative spirit. You are brave, dar­ing, coura­geous and yes, a woman of integrity. May your cre­ative spirit shine oh so bright in the year to come.

    warmly,
    Terri

  • http://www.pinkpersimmon.com Darcy

    Hi Lisa,

    I have referred back to this post so many times and finally felt com­pelled to share it with our blog read­ers too (hope you don’t mind that I am shar­ing a link to this post on our blog today). Accep­tance is a great word. We all need a bit more of that in our lives. Thanks for shar­ing such a per­sonal and inspir­ing mes­sage! — Darcy

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